Self-confidence
The first thing we start with in this life is self-confidence. Even if you see that everyone does not trust you, trust yourself. And if you see that you have no self-worth among people, trust yourself. Don’t you think that the beggar, despite his bad reputation, trusted you? By himself more than you. Yes, even a beggar can act in front of people as if he is sick or in need, and he trusts himself to make some money, whether he is in need or not, but the important thing is that he pinned his hopes on his trust, and many of them succeeded in that. Then, if you do not trust yourself, you will not be able to live a life. The happy ones. . The path of change begins with the soul first, and this is a great connection that God mentioned in the Holy Qur’an. He is the Creator of the soul and knows what it is and what it needs. He said: “God does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves” [Al-Ra’ad: 11]. No one changes unless he changes what is in himself, and ask yourself, dear reader: If I do not trust myself, who will trust me??
Your childhood story
I will tell you the story of your childhood, perhaps you will regain self-confidence when you were born and after you had breathed the air of life and weaning had taken place. Whenever someone passed by you, you rose Your hands to him, don't you think that you want transcendence and elevation? You wanted to get up and walk and stand on your feet, so that you could see life, and then you began to explore right and left everything you saw around you, and raise your gaze to the sky. You trusted yourself and wished to do your own free work. The question that will come to your mind now: Who caused your lack of confidence, who took away your self-confidence? They are humans. They took it away from you unintentionally. In fact, the discouragement of humans never ends. If you stand up, they say to you, “Will you remain standing?” And if you sit, they will tell you, “Should you remain sitting?” And even if you walk, they will say, “Should you remain walking?” I was a fan of walking. From the early morning, I used to gather myself and go out from one place to another. Some of them would make fun of me because I walked a lot. Then I said, “I will sit in my house and will not go out except for prayer or something.” When I met some of them after a while, they said to me, “Why are you locking yourself up and not going out?” I realized. Then people cause us frustration just as we cause it to others as well, and we will never satisfy anyone in the world no matter what we do, so trust yourself and do not care about their opinions.
How did they succeed and rise
This question haunted me so much that I wanted to know their secret, and I learned some of these secrets when I watched some YouTube clips of imitators. By them I mean those who see a famous personality and try to imitate him. I found the difference between them and the imitating personality is spontaneity and assuming the role. I mean that when the lecturer gives a lecture about success, he shows all his emotions and feelings and does not care about the camera that is watching him, as if he is talking to himself, while the imitator wants to set up a camera. In front of him, his mind remained occupied with filming and with the camera lens, and signs of bewilderment, fear, and confusion appeared in his face, in addition to distraction. When he spoke, he began his speech with “aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa…]to the... I emulate it to people and to their eyes so that they do not feel boredom, which I felt before when I was listening like them, and what I want to convey to you, dear reader, is that you must trust yourself first, then show spontaneity in your actions and do not pretend or be affective. Smile spontaneously and speak spontaneously and in the dialect that you are accustomed to. Someone forces you to speak in another language or dialect. Do what you are good at and what you improve in word and deed, and trust yourself. You will be surprised if I tell you that your laughter will change if you trust yourself, and even your way of breathing will feel more comfortable. Yes, because many of us have not experienced self-confidence. We have not tasted this. The taste of comfort.
Clarity
Why don't we be clear with our children in their early stages, why don't we tell them the facts that happened to us, and why don't we answer their wandering questions? In their thoughts, even if they are critical? One of my colleagues told me that he had a child from his relatives next to him in the car, and the child was asking a lot of questions to the point that my colleague hated it and got bored, but that quickly caught my colleague’s attention. Indeed, the child’s questions were many and exciting, but they made this child a marvel. He knows Everything revolves around him and he learns everything new. If this child is lost in a place, he will come out safe and sound, and if he is absent from his home, it will not be a sudden fear. Leave the children to learn, and if some bad thing happens to them, it is like a lesson that the child learns when he is young. Leave them and watch them from a distance. They taught them leadership and management from a young age. Most of the prophets tended sheep in their childhood and youth and tasted the pain of loneliness in the deserts and deserts until they became leaders who conveyed heavenly messages. Leave the children to learn and answer every question asked and do not trick them when answering, for one day they will inevitably know whether you believed them or not. no . .
Always a feeling of winning
I told someone that in every matter you talk about, it is as if you are going to win and win. Aren't you afraid that you will fail or lose? He told me that the winner expects to win. Yes, it was a great statement for me because the winner does not think about losing, but rather thinks about the degree of victory. Will he be first or second? He dropped one grade in such-and-such a subject and that he would make up for it in the last exam. Some of them were saying, “I fell back in mathematics. I don’t know where half a grade went.” Then after that, I turned into a group of lazy people and sat with them. Some of them were saying: “If only I passed the Arabic subject, I don’t want anything else.” The other said, “Praise be to God. My grade was exactly at the limit. If it had decreased by half a grade, I would have failed the exam. The winner has his own story and the loser has his own story. That is why I told you that my colleague’s words about winning are true. The winner is the one who only expects to win.”
People's words
We should not pay attention to what others say, especially if the words are slander and lies to us. If someone says to me, "You are stupid," I will not I respond to him because I know that I am not stupid, and if he says to me, “You are a liar,” I will check with myself, and if I do not find that I am a liar, I will not respond to him, because I truly trust myself and know that I am not a liar. One of the predecessors entered a mosque and stumbled upon the leg of one of them who was sleeping, and the sleeping person said to him, “And He woke up angry: Are you a donkey? He answered him in the negative, so some of them wanted to assault him, so he said to them: Leave him. He only asked me, “Are you a donkey?” and I answered him in the negative, and the problem ended. Why do we care about things that do not concern us and do not concern us, and get angry at descriptions that do not apply to us? Likewise, our noble Prophet Muhammad, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was a role model for us in this, as it was reported. In Al-Bukhari, on the authority of Abu Hurairah, he said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “Don’t you wonder how God will turn away from me the insults and curses of the Quraysh?” They curse. “Reprehensible and they curse reprehensible, and I am Muhammad.” Yes, when they wanted to insult the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, they said: The reprehensible person went and the reprehensible person came, and they did not mention his real name. For this reason, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not care because in fact they did not curse him by his real name, so do not care about what others say about you.
The most dangerous harm
The most dangerous harm that befalls a person is his low opinion of himself. Have you ever said to yourself: Oh, I cannot, I cannot, even if I did I will make a mistake. I will fail. These negative words are more dangerous than fighting an army. Try to get a pen and paper and write down everything you said before that I cannot do, and write next to it that you will do it. Believe in yourself. Someone said to me: One year I hated physics very much, but I must... From the exam, my grades were low in physics, and I did not like it at all, but I was determined to study in order to succeed in it, so I sat down one day studying the chapters of the book and focused on every word that came to me and analyzed every problem, then I went to questions in previous courses for students from the years 1992 to the year 2000, and I had not finished. That was until midnight, so I closed my eyes and then went to the exam early, and despite my lack of self-confidence, I answered the questions quickly to get out, and at the last question there were huge numbers that had to be multiplied and added, so I said to myself: Do you think your answer is correct so that you write the answer and work hard to write it? He said to me: So I left the final answer in the outcome and left. Two days later, the professor called me and said: I got the highest grade in the class and I am missing half a grade to get the full grade. But what is strange, dear reader, is that half the grade was in that outcome that our friend left out and was lazy to write. Did you realize the meaning of self-confidence and losing it?
Confidence and Achievement
The pages you read previously will not make you have absolute confidence in yourself, and that is why I wanted to lead you to the path of confidence, even if the path is shortest. Confidence in yourself is to accomplish an achievement that you are proud of. Try to strive for any achievement you can. Do your best even if you lose everyone around you, because if you accomplish an achievement, everyone who left you will meet you, and everyone who left you will return to you, and you will have an unparalleled life of confidence and pleasure. . . . This is the first step in creating trust. It is an achievement. What can you do? Ask yourself, the most you can do, do not hesitate to do it.
From the book Eye Colors and Their Attributes... followed by (jealousy, the nature of men, emotional sensitivity, self-confidence)
